Trust in Relationships
One of the best things about a healthy relationship is having trust – knowing that person has your back and is loyal to you. No meaningful relationship can really thrive and survive without trust. Trust is like the foundation of your house, upon which all other aspects of the relationship will build.
As the author Walter Anderson wrote, “We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone – but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.” If you have trust issues in your relationship, take a step back and evaluate yourself and your partner.
First and foremost, make sure you are worthy of the trust of your partner. If you lie, cheat, or steal, it is not fair for you to expect honesty and loyalty from someone else.
If you find it difficult to trust someone, think about how you have been treated in the past and how you may have been affected by those relationships. Perhaps someone in your life mistreated you, and you on some level expect anyone else who comes into your life to do the same. You need to find a way to leave that baggage behind if you are ever to have a healthy relationship in your future. Don’t project your disappointment from the past onto a new relationship, because this won’t allow you to open your mind and your heart to a positive experience.
A good mantra to follow is to trust someone until they give you a reason not to. Listen to your intuition when it comes to trusting someone. Does something they say or the way they act set off a warning bell in your mind? Don’t dismiss this feeling, because you will usually find that your gut feeling was correct.
