Guest Post: How Long Should We Talk Before We Meet?
This is the first in a series of guest posts. Our first guest blogger, Carly Spindel of Carly's Dating Chronicles, is on a mission to change people’s perspectives of the dating game.
I’m a big believer in not talking very often before you meet. If you spend hours talking on the phone, your conversation in person will be strained. Some people want to find out all the little details about each other before they meet, but that isn’t necessary. Attraction speaks for itself. You can spend 6 hours on the phone every night for a week and think that you will get along great. But if you meet and there’s no attraction, all that phone time will be wasted.
My advice is to keep the talking to a minimum and just meet. It makes it more exciting to find out the intricate details about each other face to face. I also like to put a face to a name. I don’t like hearing someone’s voice and not knowing what they look like.
Don’t be afraid of a blind date. Blind dates are adventurous. Before I go on a date, I don’t believe in having lengthy phone conversations. Sure, I appreciate a phone call to set up the plans, but I make sure to keep it just that. I don’t ask the man how his day was and what he did this past weekend. I find out the time and location and tell him that I’m looking forward to our date. This way, if he isn’t a big talker, I know I have something to ask him in person. If he is a big talker, then you’re connection will be real, and not exist over the phone.
Technology has taken over the world and with email, texting, skype, and blackberry messenger, there’s always a way to communicate without meeting face to face. I suggest being daring and not talking too much before you meet.
