Saying Goodbye
Ending a relationship is probably the most heart-wrenching and depressing aspect of dating, and is difficult for those on both sides of the breakup. While a breakup is a painful process, there are some things you can do to make the end of the relationship better for both of you.
First, don’t procrastinate. If you have thought this through and you’re sure that you need to move on, it’s better to act sooner than later. Also, don’t start acting like a jerk or pick a fight so that your partner will break up with you and save you the guilt.
This should go without saying, but have this conversation in person. In my opinion, anyone with who you have had more than a few dates deserves the respect of a face-to-face talk. Also, you should avoid doing this in a public place if possible.
Be honest, but not brutal. Let the other person know the reasons why you two aren’t working out. You don’t, however, need to list every little thing about them that bothers you. This isn’t a mission to destroy their self-esteem, but a way to help them understand the situation and to perhaps help them in their next relationship.
Once you have said your piece, allow your partner to voice his or her feelings. Listen to their concerns and address their questions.
In general, treat this person who has been an intimate part of your life with the same respect and care that you would expect to receive.
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